I did it!

[Aquarian]

Ok. So, this may surprise y'all, but I'm really a bit shy when I'm out of my comfort zone. On this forum, I have anonymity. At work, I'm all confident because I know everyone and I know what I'm doing. Outside of here, I'm kinda quiet and not so forth-coming with my over abundance of personality.

Well, I thought about Straightred's tag line about getting what you've always got if you do what you've always done. I also had a couple of friends encourage me to get out of my shell and go out to meet people.

Tonight I did just that! I went out...ALONE! (I've never done that before.) I had a couple of drinks. I met interesting people. I got a free pool lesson, which believe me, I needed. Love pool, but let's face it, I suck at it! I started at a familiar place, Newby's, where at least I know the bartenders. Had one drink, but nothing was going on. Then I went to Donovan's Reef, which is mostly a local dive. I played a game of pool alone. When I started my second game, a nice older fellow asked if he could join me and he showed me what I was doing wrong. I also met some people from Indiana there, which was cool. On top of that, one of the ladies from my Optimist club was there and bought me a drink.

This may not describe a perfect single girl's night out, but considering how shy I really can be, it was a milestone for me! I'm pretty proud of myself for just giving it a try. I wasn't expecting anything on a Wednesday night, so any contact with other human beings was good. Not bad for a first try. Next week, I'll go somewhere that may offer a bit more action. Hoping to try a couple of new places, which is REALLY out of my comfort zone. Gotta start somewhere, right?

[Linda in Calif]

You go, girl!!!! It is very hard to do what you did and takes a lot of courage, especially if you are a little shy. I hope you continue with your adventure....it's good for us to get out of our "Comfort Zone" every so often....you never know what interesting thing might happen. Good Luck!!!!

[kim221998]

That's awesome Aquarian! I'm extremely shy myself so it would be really hard for me to do what you did. I'm slowly getting better though so maybe some day I'll get to that level!

[linsue]

I understand completely what you're talking about...........Congratulations!

[Mrs Peel]

Wow, that does take guts! When I was in my 30's and single, I tried going out by myself a couple of times but it seemed like the men assumed if you're by yourself, you're looking to get picked up. I got tired of being hassled and just stayed home. Hopefully, times have changed. Good for you!

[gagirl]

That is awesome.....good for you. I have never gone out alone and don't know if I could do it or not.

[Aquarian]

I almost chickened out, but then I thought "why?". I'm single. I'm successful. I have a lot of friends, so I must be somewhat koowell. I may not be a super-model, but I don't frighten small children and animals. So why not go it alone?

Hell! I might even try it again tonight!

[gagirl]

Hell! I might even try it again tonight!


Go for it!!! :mrgreen:

[wannabethere]

:lol: 8) :lol: You are Koowell!!!!!! 8)

[jerryb]

I may not be a super-model, but I don't frighten small children and animals. So why not go it alone?

You are a super-model!

[DONNIESPAGE]

Nothing wrong with getting out and having fun. Just be careful. There are some crazies everywhere.

[sweet2]

Aquarian, been there done that. I too as you know am uncomfortable out of my "zone". But I too have ventured out there. With b/f only being off one weekend a month I often will go out for a drink and dinner on Fridays when he's working. It can be a bit uncomfortable but the more you do it the easier it gets. I like to go to places where I know the bartenders.... they tend to "protect" me. It helps that I can talk the sports talk. SO sitting at the bar and watching whatever sports is on at the momemt I can strike up a conversation with whoever is sitting next to me. That helps. Plus being confident in yourself helps keep the dumb a@@s from hitting on you.

From my experience the more you go out by yourself the easier it gets. Eventually when you walk into these places everyone in the place will know you and know what you are drinking. :mrgreen: :mrgreen: Then it will seem like old school to you.

[BeachBeanCounter]

You didn't need to go out alone, you could have just called me ya know ! 8)